A Promise to Ourselves: A Journey Through Fatherhood and Divorce

I think most people who read this book will be people who have suffered through a painful custody battle.

I felt sad to read this book, I especially felt depressed after I had finished reading it.

Alec Baldwin tries to offer suggestions for people who want to remedy the terrible mess the family courts are in, but I fail to see any true resolution to be had.

The situation seems to be the same in every country which proves that there are no real fair solutions to be had for the children of divorce, let alone their parents.

I am so glad that he says he now has a great relationship with his daughter - in one way I can see how the 'phone call' may have even helped their relationship.
Ireland and her dad would at least then had a real opening to talk about his love for her and his frustrations.

It's important in my opinion for a parent suffering PAS to talk openly about the experience that both child and alienated parent is suffering.

It is true that the child is the ultimate victim of PAS.

I feel annoyed that people continue to say the Alec Baldwin somehow deserves this treatment or somehow doesn't deserve to see his daughter. It's just more abuse for him to suffer, it's outrageous really.

Like I said the book is depressing, the situation is depressing and the future seems depressing.

I wish the book was more hopeful...

Unfortunately you have to live this nightmare to realize that what Alec writes in this book is a true account of the divorce process for Men.
You can be the Mother Theresa of fatherhood and still be subject to false allegations of child abuse, neglect, bad decision-making etc., etc..
Do yourself a favor, trust what Alec is telling you, it can and will happen to you if post separation you do not maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship with your soon to be ex. You can save yourself from living this nightmare by believing his story.
You may not really know whom you married until you divorce them, but you should know this book is SPOT-ON.

This is an excellant book. I applaude the author for having the guts to write it. I have a son who is going through this very thing in Kentucky....mainly parental alienation. I sent the book to him also. It is so similiar that it is scary! It is the product of our judicial system and attorneys. I also have a partner in Kansas who is going through the same thing as a woman, with a exhusband who is parentally alienating the children and a judge who agrees with him. It is a sad commentary about our judicial system.

Alec Baldwin says he never wanted to write this book. I'm sorry he felt the need to, but I am so glad he did. It was enlightening, validating and reassuring for me to have a name-- parental alienation syndrome-- that defines and articulates what so many people I know have experienced with their ex-spouses. I agree with Mr.Balwin's assertion that the courts and our society in general are slanted toward women. I realize historically that women have been the victims of domestic abuse, but the pendulum to correct it is swinging in the opposite direction. To err on the side of caution is to err. Just because a woman calls her ex-husband a bully doesn't mean he is. If she feels "unsafe" it doesn't mean she is. .

I hear that feminists are protesting this book and I whole-heartedly disagree with them. I hate seeing women, or anyone, manipulating their power to destroy someone to exact revenge.

When I read this book I felt like I was going thru my custody battle all over again. The judges, lawyers, therapist, social workers and the process couldn't be more accurate. They couldn't care less about your child. It is all about money. The lawyers will spin everything against you in a negative light. Judges don't want to make a decision. You spend thousands to defend yourself. It took me 6 months to prove myself innocent and get my daughter back. This book chronicles everything. Anyone that is preparing for a custody battle must read this book and understand this will happen to them in our courts